Relationships aren’t always easy, but they’re never more difficult than when a partner’s loyalty is called into question. We put a lot of work into protecting our feelings and sharing with our significant others, but there’s only so much we can do when someone else’s decision affects our lives. If your partner cheats on you, you’ll both be faced with some difficult decisions, but you should always remember to decide for yourself what is best in any situation. 

Before you make any serious declarations over a partner’s cheating, you may be remiss if you don’t take time to consider it is what you actually want. It would be terrible if suspicion and misunderstanding unnecessarily destroyed a potentially salvageable relationship. Besides, anyone deserves the closure that comes with accountability from the betrayer and learning the facts — no matter how difficult that truth may be to accept.

Facing the issue head on, step one is identifying the problem and catching the cheater. For the real sociopathic liars out there, this truth finding may require the help of a team, clear thinking, and some guidance from a professional who may have dealt with affairs before. Here are a few things you need to know about spotting the warning signs and finding the truth. 

Is your partner cheating?

Before you set out to catch your partner cheating, you should evaluate the situation carefully: Is it likely your partner is cheating, and why? 

Despite the heightened emotional state of anyone who suspects their loved one may be cheating, anyone concerned should take a deep breath and a good hard look for warning signs. A classic sign is when a person who is contemplating cheating or already engaging in an extracurricular affair starts to act aloof or checked out of the relationship. They may shut down communication or seem less available emotionally and physically. If your sex life is nonexistant, you should be on high alert.

These are also sometimes no signs a relationship is in trouble, so it does you no good to assume anything is a clear indicator of cheating other than word from the horse’s mouth. Some other signs, however, are more indicative of cheating: for instance, experts agree, if your partner starts spending more time away from home than usual, this is more likely a red flag than coincidence. If they’re putting more effort into their appearance suddenly or seemingly out of nowhere, that’s another warning sign according to relationship experts. And, of course, it would be hard to not be especially wary if, at any point, you catch your partner lying about where they are and who they’re with.

Getting to the truth

With the information above, signals from your partner may be grounds for suspicion. But, from there, you may wonder, how to catch a cheater

Making the decision to have a professional keep an eye on your spouse or look into a significant other can be tough, but it’s sometimes a necessary or the course of action. Professional investigators can use any number of methods, including physical surveillance, cell phone tracking, and online surveillance investigation to uncover the truth about someone’s character – what they do when they think no one is watching. 

Bottom line, catching a cheater efficiently, safely, and without the fuss means turning to the pros. Using what they find, like a good relationship where you’re in command of your future and choices, you make the decision about what comes next.

Moving forward

Of course, cheating may or may not end your relationship, but, even if your partner is innocent, it may not be wise to simply move on and pretend like your suspicions never happened or existed. Detailed above, there will likely be warning signs in any relationship, subtle or otherwise, and, regardless of what a private investigator may find, you may want to consider couples’ therapy or, at the very least, a serious conversation about why you may feel the way you do or did. If you care about your relationship, there are always ways to save it!

Learning whether or not your partner is cheating may give you closure or even satisfaction, but you should remember, you have an inside advantage on what happens next interacting day-to-day. Maybe your relationship is worth saving, and maybe it’s not, but with an understanding of the signs and all of the knowledge available to you with the help from professionals, making a decision to move forward in the right way may not be so difficult after all.